When the Fight Isn't the Problem
By: Matt Eschler, PhD, LMFT Published on: 01/07/2025Masters of relationships don’t allow themselves to get so flooded with intense frustration or anger that it blocks connection. These couples can turn any disagreement into a romantic venture by using arguments as a way to gain insight into their...
ADHD in Marriage: Crazy or Romantic?
By: Matt Eschler, PhD, LMFT Published on: 02/03/2025Will you go on a hypothetical journey with me? Let’s say you are getting married to your best friend. Your partner is playful, interesting, fun, adventurous, and definitely never boring. In fact, your time spent dating is not only constant but is...
Am I Disagreeing, or Am I Gaslighting?
By: Matt Eschler, PhD, LMFT Published on: 02/11/2024In my counseling office, I am experiencing couples who throw the term gaslighting at each other with a frequency never before experienced. The term gaslighting has deep psychological meaning when used properly, but when used as a defense to a...
Three Weeks to a Healthier Relationship
By: Chris Eschler Published on: 01/03/2024Our love relationships are where we turn for nurture and security, but when certain topics appear to be off-limits, the relationship becomes guarded rather than secure. Conversations going the rounds with high intensity and no resolve are emotionally and physically draining.
